Making the most of your time with your children

Going from seeing your children frequently to implementing a visitation schedule will take some adjustment. Considering the new time restraints, the opportunities you do have to spend time with your children may feel more important than ever before.

Abiding by the terms of your custody arrangement can provide stability for your children, as well as reinforce your love for them.

Be reliable

Adapting to a custody arrangement may only be a fraction of the changes happening in your life. Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, you may find yourself dealing with changes to your living situation, your career and your relationships. However, your custody arrangement is perhaps one of the most critical commitments you have currently.

Showing up consistently and on time may require sacrifice on your part. As you negotiate a custody agreement, be realistic about your availability. If your schedule changes and impacts your availability, try to enforce an immediate and consistent change to your visitation schedule. Your dedication to showing up will demonstrate your commitment, love and concern for your children.

Care for yourself

Caring for yourself with so much going on may seem impossible or unnecessary. However, according to The Mayo Clinic, one way to adjust to single parenting is to prioritize self-care. Socialize, eat a balanced diet, get enough rest and stay active. Taking good care of your physical and mental health will enable you to be emotionally available and physically motivated to spend time with your children.

Equally as important, find someone to vent your frustrations to. This could even be a counselor or therapist. Processing your emotions effectively may reduce the chances that you say something negative about your divorce or your children’s other parent in the presence of your children. Feeling in control of your emotions will allow you to focus your energy and thoughts on caring for your children and not fuming about your former relationship.